Is forgiving the best solution when you feel wronged?
Do you get too anxious when you hear the word “forgiving”? Then just read my brief insights on it. Before that go through these quotes:
“To err is human, to forgive is divine”
“When a deep injury is done to us, we never recover until we forgive”
“Forgive people in your life, even those who are not sorry for their actions. Holding on to anger only hurts you, not them.”
Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace”.
When we look deeply into these quotes, we understand that forgiving frees us from mental agony. Agreed. But what if we are not able to forgive the person and the scar remains strong in our heart? Is forgiving easily said than done? And sometimes people hurt us seriously and if they ask sorry will it all be fine?
Now that you have realized that people have taken advantage of you, just try to come out of it. It is indeed a difficult thing, and there are also chances of you plunging into depression. But remember that it is your life, and you have to mold it with grace. Give yourself the needed time to come out of the mental distress.
We have priorities in life. We have to focus on them. We have to balance between both our personal and professional lives. Can we spend most of our lives ruminating about the past wherein the wrong-doer caused great emotional turmoil to us? Well, think otherwise. If we carry on the hatred and try to give tit-for-tat, it will only affect our lives. Will you spend your whole life deeply contemplating on the hurt you suffered? Will you harbor hatred, and will your life be in a standstill? Definitely not. Everyone has their own rationalization regarding forgiving, and well-wishers advice only for our well-being; that we don’t get emotionally carried away by the negative act. If people had done something wrong to us, they have to understand the consequences of it and not us.
And one fine day, when our graceful attitude towards the wrong-doer shows that we are unperturbed by their wrong-doing and are still moving on, they may realize a thing or two. What lesson we need to learn from the wrong actions of others is that we should not force unforgiving nature. Just let it flow, and let the mental agony subside. And when you are ready to forgive, do so with style and grace. After all, you have healed and that’s what is necessary. Earlier you were not able to forgive; and that’s absolutely fine. But now you have healed after contemplation and wisdom and have come to a point where forgiving is not out of force but out of your own mental grit and necessity. The necessity blooms from the realization that your peace is more important than holding grudge against them. Now read this again:
“Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace”